By Eleanor from mxrshmallowqueen.com
The simple answer to this question is; yes.
But we aren’t here for a quick answer so don’t leave just yet and let me explain to you how it will help and how you can implement mindfulness into your life.
I live with borderline personality disorder and it’s a part of my everyday life. A lot of my online followers also live with BPD and I spend a lot of time reading about it and how to improve your life while living with the illness.
Mindfulness is the core practice of DBT which is also known as Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. Mindfulness gives you some practices that you can start practicing straight away to relieve the symptoms of BPD.
If mindfulness is something that you think will help you then there’s plenty of ways to practise. You could stop and take in your surrounds, you could practise a bit of self care or maybe you could meditate.
Learning to view things objectively and being in the present is absolutely wonderful against self-judgement and the general lack of self-esteem. You can begin to see your thoughts without identifying yourself with them. It’s as if your thoughts are no longer in control of your life and you can see that the negative thoughts do not control you meaning that you can live your life knowing that you are not the person that your negative thoughts say that you are.
A lot of people with live with BPD struggle with self destruction. Mindfulness is a great way to fight this. It helps you to take control over your impulses and it gives you time to observe yourself and your reactions meaning you’ll know what is best for yourself. Overtime, you will notice certain red alerts and when that starts to happen, you know that you need to be careful and not to trust your impulses. For example, I used to have the impulse to hit things when I got angry. The best way to combat that is to breathe through it. Breathe, breathe and breathe again. When you feel calm enough and you feel you are in a better mental state, then relook at the situation. Sometimes the best idea is to just not act at all. Simply stay calm and breathe!
The practise of patience towards yourself and self compassion is an amazing tool to learn how to love and appreciate ourselves and start filling a little of the emptiness that we live with everyday.
So learn to love yourself as you are. Learn to accept yourself as you are, it’s the only way to start a change.
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