Meditation. Some of you probably do it regularly, and some of you may have tried it once and never did it again. Either way, I can guarantee there will be things you did/do wrong.
So How Are You Meditating Wrong?
Meditation is a key part of Mindfulness (read my article about that here). So it important to try and get it right in order to get the most out of it. You might think it’s impossible to meditate wrong, but how many of these things can you honestly say you have never been guilty of?
1. Putting too much pressure on yourself
This isn’t just something newbies are guilty of. As someone who meditates regularly, I know I have done this in the past! I sit down determined to find my ‘zen’, and instead of being calm and collected, my brain won’t stop spinning. It’s like when you’re trying to get to sleep and keep telling yourself ‘if I go to sleep now, I’ll get 6 hours sleep’. You inadvertently put too much pressure on yourself and end up being more stressed than when you started.
How do I stop this happening? Well, it’s not easy, but basically you have to accept what is going on in your mind and let it go. If I know I am particularly laden with thoughts, I will offload them into a note on my phone or a notebook before I start meditating.
The important thing is to not judge yourself for having these ‘busy thoughts’. Acknowledge them and let them go.
And if all that fails, stop! Don’t force the situation, try again later in the day.
2. Doing it at the wrong time
I am NOT a morning person – FACT! So meditation in the morning would just end up in me being so relaxed I would probably go back to sleep. Equally, I am my most productive after 4pm, so I would not be able to switch my brain off enough to centre myself.
After many years working it out, the best time for me to meditate is either late morning or early afternoon. I am awake but my brain isn’t going into overdrive.
So have a think about when you are meditating and if it is the best time for you. Are you struggling to stay in the zone or are you too relaxed?! Find the best time to meditate for you and you will benefit so much more from it.
3. Meditating in the wrong place
It has taken me a loooong time to find the best spot in the house for me to meditate. Bedroom? Too comfortable! Kitchen? Too messy! Lounge? Too noisy!!
I have finally found our spare bedroom is the best place for me to meditate. My husband doesn’t really go in this room so I don’t get disturbed my him and I have a lush rocking chair from Ikea in this room which is comfortable without being sleep inducing.
I light a couple of candles, put on the twinkly lights (even on a sunny day!) and find myself meditating with ease in this cozy room.
Have a wander around your house and see if you can find a little nook you can tuck yourself in whilst you meditate.
4. Trying to meditate in silence
This might be obvious to some people, but trying to meditate in silence is asking for trouble in my opinion! My brain wanders off into all sorts of directions and it’s a hell of a lot harder to stay centred.
I have a few playlists I go to, as well as some meditation apps, which help create a calming atmosphere.
Some people like the sound of rain falling and others like a full guided meditation. Have a play around with different music and sounds until you find the one that works best for you.
5. Not meditating often enough
It is too easy to say ‘oh it didn’t work’ or ‘it’s too difficult’ when it comes to meditating. But, just like learning a language or an instrument, you have to keep practicing!
You are not going to be an expert overnight, and you’re certainly not going to be ‘fixed’ after one session. The more often you meditate, the easier it becomes and the more you get out of each session.
How often should you meditate? Every day. Yes, every. single. day. Even if it’s just for five minutes most days and you do a longer session at the weekends, by practicing every single day you will reap maximum benefits.
Now Go And Relax!
If you can implement these simple changes I can say with absolute certainty you will find you get so much more out of your meditation sessions. Don’t forget to hop over to Instagram and let me know how you get on!