This week has been a bit of an eye-opener for me. I have seen how friendship comes in all different shapes, sizes and formats. It’s been absolutely wonderful.
I was talking to a friend the other day, who was coming to realise she was losing touch with her oldest friends. She said they had nothing in common anymore. It made me think about the people who have come and gone from my life. We talked about how friends may not always be friends forever. I explained how I had gone through similar experiences and although they hadn’t always ended well, I don’t dwell on this. I like to remember the fun we had when we did have things to enjoy together. Friends may not be with us forever. Lives change and people change. Instead of dwelling on the past, have fun in the now with the friends you have got. I then thought about all the different people I can call friends in my life.
Friends From Afar
For those of you who have been following my blog, you will know I have been heavily involved in a new project: the Blog Buddy program. I have been working very closely with four fabulous women; Lee, Anne and Kate. I never thought I would become friends with people as a result of the internet. Never say never! Here I am now with 3 fab friends, none of which I have met in person!
I have also come to realise how lucky I am to have friends in my life who I have known for 20 years. I know, what a relic! Last weekend I was at my best friends little girls 1st birthday party. Sitting in the kitchen in the wee small hours after having waaay too many lemonades, we reminisced about the days we would go on caravan holidays to Skegness and build sandcastles. The next day, I realised these people aren’t just my friends, they are my family. This is the family I have chosen, and I think I made an amazing (if not conscious) decision.
That leads me nicely onto the friends I have not necessarily chosen – my family. This is going to sound disgustingly cheesy now, but it is true that as you grow older your family can become your friends. Fifteen years ago, I would have rather died than hang out with my big brother. He would accidently on purpose bump into me at the pub to check up on me, argh! Now, I wouldn’t even cross my mind not to hang out with him, have a couple of drinks down the pub. We even have a few friends in common!
One Special Friend
Finally, I couldn’t write a piece about friendship without including my wonderful husband. We have been through some seriously tough times this year. Yet through all of it, we still can make each other laugh and be silly. Having a partner who you can have fun with is so important to me. I have always enjoyed being a bit daft and luckily Mike is happy to be daft with me. Although, having said that, he does draw the line at helping me decorate the house for Halloween. I’m working on him!
A Variety of Friendships
Friendship has come to me in such a wide variety of ways. I am incredibly lucky. Sometimes we can be in a room full of people and feel lonely. Sometimes our friends are a whole county or even COUNTRY away but we feel that closeness still. I will always value that feeling of being in a room with my oldest friends after a few months apart and behaving like we only saw each other yesterday.
So when you’re feeling rubbish, don’t forget the amazing network of people you have around you. Enjoy your time with these people and value the different relationships you have with them. I know I will be!